I am very big into family, and I have a big family as well. 5 brothers and sisters (I'm the 5th of 6). 13 nieces and nephews (it's about to be 14 because yet another one is due in October!). 5 great-nephews & 5 great-nieces. And no, with that many family members, I do not keep up with birthdays very well. Even with a master list on my fridge.
I'm also married. My husband and I got married here in San Antonio at the historic Sheraton Gunter Hotel downtown. And we are the proud parents of a 9 year old Alaskan Husky named Moo and three 1 year old kittens, Wicket, Willow, and Winter.
Like all Texas moms, I made my kid pose in the bluebonnets.
Mistake: Allowing yourself a year after the wedding to come through with a present.
Why it's wrong: The notion that there's a 12-month grace period is pure myth. A wedding gift is given to celebrate the occasion, not the first anniversary!
What to do instead: In most cases, gifts should be sent as close to the wedding date as possible. (However, in some areas and cultures, it's customary to bring gifts to the wedding ceremony and place them on a designated table at the reception.)
Mistake: Asking the host of the party for a tour of her house.
Why it's wrong: Unless it's a housewarming, the host has no obligation to show people around. And she may have any number of good reasons for not doing so. Maybe she's too busy in the kitchen — or maybe she used the upstairs as a catchall while tidying up before you arrived.
What to do instead: If your host doesn't offer a look-see, respect her privacy and don't ask. For the same reasons, avoid wandering past party boundaries — if a room is dark or a door is closed, take the hint.
Mistake: Asking people to come to a restaurant to celebrate your husband's birthday — but then expecting them to pay their own way.
Why it's wrong: When the fete is for a member of your immediate family, you're automatically considered the host, meaning that you will foot the bill. (After all, if your husband's party were in your home, you wouldn't ask guests to contribute at the door.)
What to do instead: Be clear with invitees about your intentions. Here's how you communicate that you're picking up the check: "I'm hosting a dinner for Stan at
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